How Do I Open Up as a Man?
Mental health is a team sport. Choose your team mates wisely
There is lots of support out there if you know where to look, but there is no 'one size fits all' approach. We're all unique, shaped by our upbringing, our environment and our experiences. What works for me may not work for you. Therefore, in the spirit of personal responsibility we're far better off plotting our own path, establishing our own support networks.
A few things to consider when taking this approach:
1 - Bigger ISN'T Always Better:
Quality over quantity should be the approach. If your support group is too big it can be hard to balance the differing views and also become difficult to ensure that everyone has your best interests at heart. I would personally aim for around 3 to 4 people maximum.
2 - Yes is NOT the Only Answer:
When deciding on your group, bear in mind that the most important outcome for you is that you're able to identify the right solutions for your struggles. As the saying goes 'you can't make an omelette without breaking some eggs'. Therefore, don't just choose people that will agree with you. You need diversity of thought that is in your best interests.
3 - Commitment:
Being part of a support network is a big responsibility. Make sure that everyone is signed up to the task and understands the possible demands on them. Honesty is key
Strong Men Talk
Accepting support is never a weakness, its YOU taking control of your situation
Darren Paul Matthews
Strong Men Talk
Accepting support is never a weakness, its YOU taking control of your situation
Darren Paul Matthews
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Why Is It Important For Men To Talk?
Whether we like it or not, no man is able to progress through life without help at one stage or another, and that's ok. This is not about becoming less masculine, its about taking control. Men talking and opening up about their feelings, emotions, and mental health is important for several reasons:
Breaking the Stigma:
Historically, there has been a societal stigma around men expressing vulnerability or discussing their emotions. This can lead to men bottling up their feelings, which can be detrimental to their mental health. By encouraging men to talk openly about their emotions, we can break the stigma and create a more supportive and understanding environment.
Emotional Release:
Talking about your feelings and experiences can be a cathartic and therapeutic process. Verbalising emotions can help individuals process their feelings, reduce stress, and gain clarity about their thoughts and emotions.
Social Connection:
Sharing your struggles with others can foster a sense of social connection and belonging. Men who feel isolated or disconnected may find support and empathy from others when they open up about their mental health challenges.
Seeking Help:
Talking about mental health struggles can be the first step towards seeking professional help or counselling. It can lead to early intervention and prevent potential mental health issues from escalating.
Understanding Emotions:
Verbalising emotions can help individuals understand and make sense of their feelings. This self-awareness is essential for personal growth and can contribute to improved emotional intelligence.
Supporting Others:
When men talk openly about their mental health, it encourages others to do the same. This ripple effect can create a culture of openness and support, benefiting the mental health of the entire community.
Reducing Self-Destructive Behaviours:
Men who feel unable to express their emotions may resort to harmful coping mechanisms, such as substance abuse or aggression. Talking about their feelings can provide healthier coping strategies and reduce the reliance on destructive behaviours.
Improved Relationships:
Open communication about mental health can enhance relationships with friends, family, and partners. It fosters a sense of trust and mutual support, leading to stronger connections.
Preventing Suicide:
Men, in particular, are at a higher risk of suicide. Encouraging open dialogue about mental health can help identify individuals who may be struggling and facilitate timely support and intervention.
In Conclusion, encouraging men to talk about their mental health is crucial for promoting emotional well-being, building supportive communities, and ensuring that individuals have the resources and support they need to cope with life's challenges. Its essential to create an environment where men feel comfortable expressing their emotions without judgment or shame.
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